How to Deal With Cyber-Bullying

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Tips for Dealing With Cyber-Bullying

Cyber-bullying is an unfortunate, common complaint these days especially among younger internet users including pre-teens and teenagers. With such a large amount of internet users, some are finding themselves the victim of bullying whether it be through harassing emails, instant messages or through the use of social networking sites. There are ways to stop cyber-bullying and help prevent it from happening again. Here are some helpful tips.

Block the User

One of the first steps to ending cyber-bullying is to ignore the actions and block the user. When the bully is given attention it only encourages their actions. Start by blocking the user in all ways. Block all known email addresses, instant messengers and if necessary, through social networking sites. For parents who are trying to help their kids against cyber-bullying, if they find the bully has gone to extreme lengths such as making a website mocking the child or using forums to discuss the child in a negative manner or even going on to physically threaten the child, it is a good idea to contact the forum moderator or site owner and request the posts and information be taken down.

Contact the Authorities

In extreme cases where there are major threats being taken or the internet user is being stalked through the internet it is then a good idea to turn to the authorities. Be sure to save all emails, instant messages or posts the user has made. There are specific laws that deal with cyber-bullying and it is taken very seriously these days. Contacting the authorities can help end it quickly.

What Teachers Can Do About Cyber-Bullying

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Many kids are experiencing cyber-bullying now that there is more access to the internet. In some areas, there are even technology classrooms, that allow for students to get online while they are in class and they can visit various websites as well as email each other. When it comes to being safe online, there are many things that need to be considered. Most people think about the inappropriate media that children should not see, and protect them from contacting strangers online, but often, many forget that there are ways that those that you know can also cause emotional and sometimes even result in physical harm.

Cyber-bullying is common online. As a teacher, you can be aware of what is happening in the classroom and create an atmosphere where your students feel that they can come and talk to you about anything that they are experiencing. Talking openly about cyber bullying and why it is not OK would also be helpful to many students. When the standard is clearly set, it is much easier for students to know that is expected as well as for those experiencing bullying to feel that they can come forward and talk about it.

Cyber-bullying is very serious. There has been an increase in the number of children who have taken their own lives because they felt that there was no way out, no way to avoid the bullying that they were experiencing.

As a teacher you have great influence on your students, and by simply talking to them about it, you can make a difference.

Questions You Should Be Asking Your Child’s Teacher

The only time parents really have one on one conversations with their child’s teachers is on parent/teacher conference days. It is during this time that parents really learn about what their children are doing in school. There are certain questions that parents can ask to find out the problems that their children are facing, what is going well, and what is not working. A child’s performance in school is only measured by grades but those grades can’t gauge how well your child is actually doing.

One of the things you should inquire about is your child’s socialization with the others in their class. How well your child interacts with other students reveals a lot about their social life. If they are loners or are getting picked on, it could indicate a social problem or that they are subject to bullying. Your child’s social abilities are a critical part of how well they do in school. A bad social life intrudes upon school work and diminishes the value of your child’s education.

Another line of inquiry should be into your child’s general attitude toward the class material. Every child has a bad day once in awhile but if the bad attitude persists for a period of time, it is time to investigate into why the child is displaying such behavior. There could be a multitude of reasons. The school work could be too easy and they are bored with it. It could be too hard and they are struggling with the concepts. Either way, a problem exists that must be dealt with.

There are many factors that play into how well a child is doing in school. Grades are only an indicator of schoolwork and tests.

Preventing Your Kids From Engaging In Cyber-bullying

One of the hardest situations parents deal with is finding out their child is engaged in activity that harms another child. When they are little, it is easy to correct these problems. But when they are older and with access to the world, the job becomes infinitely harder. However, the parenting doesn’t stop when the kids can text or get online. It is in this online world that kids can get into real trouble. The power of the internet when used wisely is amazing but when wielded to destroy others, your kids destroy themselves in the process.

Keep the kids surfing public knowledge. In other words, allow them to use the computer where what is on the monitor can be seen easily and by everyone. Creating a public atmosphere is crucial to preventing private exchanges of planned attacks. Glance over your kid’s shoulder every once in a while to make certain they are on appropriate sites. Using parental controls will work for younger kids. But for teens, the more effective method is to limit computer privacy.

Know your kid’s passwords. If you are allowing them to set-up a social network page, let them know that everything they post is public knowledge. Keep an eye on their social pages and investigate any suspicious activity immediately. Know who they friend and who they are conversing with. You need to be an active part of their social pages. Remember, there really isn’t any privacy on the internet and your kids shouldn’t automatically expect it. Whatever mischief they engage in will come back to haunt them at some point.

Finally, there are many programs available to help parents keep an eye on their kid’s activities. If you don’t know something about protecting your kids, then it is essential for you to ask.